Was he warming his plate or was he rising it off? If he was rinsing it off, then I would politely approach him and ask him if there was anything wrong with his plate and if he would like me to get another one for him. If he was warming it, then I don't know what I'd do. I don't think I've ever rinsed my plate at someone else's house; i think it's kinda rude. It's like you're telling the hostess that her plates don't fit your standards or something.

Weird! Was the food served warm or cold? I guess I would be gracious, like Party, and offer to warm his, and anyone else's, plate. I think it's a little rude of a guest to do this at someone's house, especially someone they haven't met before!

omg. I thought he was implying it was dirty or dusty or something! haha

I think that is pretty rude, especially if this is the first time he has been to your home. If you were best friends or his mom or something, I think he could get away with it, but under the circumstances you describe, weird and rude.

What are you going to do though? People are weird and rude. It would be rude of the hostess to make a production out of it, and getting into a rudeness pissing contest is just going to ruin everybody's night. Hopefully this is an aberration and the freind isn't bringing some consistently rude weirdo into the group of friends.

What is the big deal? So the guy is weird, or anal-retentive or germaphobic or something. Let it be. He's a guest. Why make an issue out of it? I wouldn't be so thin-skinned as to take offense at it.

De acuerdo con asilgrif.

I've never heard of warming your plate in the sink. How strange. That would give me the impression that he was rather uptight and rigid, therefore unpleasant to be around.

That's weird, but I don't think I'd say anything to him.

I thought he was implying it was dirty too! LOL!!! Strange but at least he was comfortable doing that.

That's so weird. I would probably just let it go to ward off any additional awkwardness, but really, it's a bit strange.

strange, still what I would do is, absolutely nothing, just stare.

Maybe, I ask why he's doing it, as with everything else I see and think is strange.

Yes, as you can see, I don't have manners.

The first thing that came to my mind was that he wanted to warm his plate. I think it shows that he cares about food and appreciates the food presented. He probably just wanted to eat the nice, hot homecooked food on a warm plate. Plus, the hostess should've kept the plates warm before serving, anyway.

My fiance has to rinse glasses before drinking out of them. He doesn't think that the people didn't do the dishes right, it's just a fear of dust or bugs being in the glass. There have been times that I've literally just washed a glass, he took the glass out and rinsed it.

I can see how people think it's weird/rude, I did at first but now I'm used to it being a quirk of his personality.

I'd ignore it.

And then b*tch about it afterwards with my mates.

I don't understand what the big deal really is... I mean, maybe he's a germophobe and doesn't like the idea that everyone else's hands may have grazed the side of his plate while picking up theirs. Not worth getting all in a bunch.

I don't see the problem. It's not something that i would do but if that's the way he likes it then let him do it.

I don't think I would say anything, because he's a guest in your home, and if he feels the need to do it, then why make the situation more awkward by focusing on it?

Yo tambien, terryt18.

I'd just laugh. No big deal.

I can't understand why he'd warm a plate in the sink, so maybe he was covering up for the fact that he was rinsing it off

Anyhow, I'd just go with it- my bf is totally OCD and always rinses dishes before using them even if they've just been washed. He also has to rinse soda cans before drinking out of them. Just one of his quirks- I hope no one really takes offense, he always explains that it's all part of being OCD and a germaphobe.

totally agree with silly3

That's just plain odd, I have never actaully wanted to warm my plate.

i would just shout U OK THAR?

Of course I would take personal offense.

I wouldn't mind. I would probably just ignore it. If it was dirty my bad and why my an awkward situation worse by opening my big mouth. If it wasn't and he is just finicky I understand I've wanted to do the same thing many times at peoples houses (never had the guts to though, don't want to end up in somebodies blog).

lol, chiefdishwasher! Seriously if that's the worst of his "bad" habits... I wouldn't even think twice about this!

I might ask if everything was ok (and then be properly mortified if my dishes were dirty) But if he just likes a warm plate or is a germaphobe I certainly wouldn't say anything or judge him especially since you are trying to get to know him. If the new boyfriend is around for a while I would probably just ask him about it after I have gotten to know him better. But I certainly wouldn't want to do anything that embarrasses my friend at the beginning of a new relationship!

Some people are supper anal and are what my aunt calls "Nice Nasty".
I would not care if someone did that, they have the problem not me.
For all I care they can wash the dinner dishes too when everyone is through.

Sorry but I don't see what the big deal is?

My husband and his mother both rinse glasses and plates off before they use them. I thought it was weird and was slightly offended at first. I have snapped at him something like "I believe the dishwasher is in working order." Now I realize it's their weirdness not mine and I let it go, but to do this in the home of a stranger is just wrong.

it's their weirdness not mine

it is so true... you're so right adco

It's rude and I would be slightly offended, but I don't think I'd confront somebody over it. If it looked like he was seriously washing the plate, I would offer to get him a new one. Confronting him would just embarrass my friend who I am sure is already mortified.

It sounds like he was covering up for washing the plate. I think I would be offended, but would offer to warm all the plates in the oven. I take pride in my dinner parties and try to make every guest feel at home and at ease, but would feel embarrassed if someone did this in my home. I would probably not extend a second invitation and hope that he wasn't a long term boyfriend for my friend.