I'm not a huge fan of processed or packaged foods and drinks. However I make one exception for Nestea iced tea mix, which I absolutely love. Today is National Iced Tea Day and whatever way you like your iced tea, you should treat yourself to a big sweating glass. If you're at a friend's house and offered a glass of iced tea when you in fact don't like it, just say no. I think it's ruder to pretend to like something you don't, rather than to deny it in the first place.
This always come to mind when I think of Nestea because I once served a glass to a girlfriend who hated it. She suffered through half the glass before bursting out, "Yuck I I can't take anymore of this - I hate iced tea!" I was horrified and heart broken, she wouldn't have hurt my feelings if she had said no in the first place.
If you pretend to love a certain food that you don't like, the hostess might note this and make it each time you come over. To really respect your hostess, when it comes to expressing your feelings towards food: make them clear about what you do and do not like.
What do you guys think, do you agree with me?
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You have to do it tackfully but I think it should be done.
1I agree as well. It would be silly to expect that everyone loves everything, so there's nothing wrong with tactfully expressing that you don't care for a particular item.
2I would have to disagree somewhat. I think it depends on the person you are dealing with. I am from the South, and I was always raised to eat everything you are served if the person is gracious enough to cook for you. That having said, I think this rule applies generally more to people of my parents' generation and it is a sign of respect. I certainly wouldn't hesitate to refuse if I was being offered something from a close friend or family member who I was familiar enough with to be comfortable politely refusing.
3I think it depends on the situation...if there are options like with iced tea there are other available options liek water.
But, I think if someone makes an entree that you don't particularly like you should eat as much as you can take as they did put time and effort into making the meal.
4I always ask what things people don't like or are allergic to before I invite them to dinner or before I bring something to their home. But if I do serve something that someone doesn't like, I'd certainly prefer to know it up front. (And I can't imagine not liking iced tea! It's like water to people here in the South!)
5tactfully say what you like and don't like....btw i hate nestea but loooooooove some kinds of iced tea
6Hehe.. I am one of those obnoxious people that is extremely picky about everything they eat, so in the interest of friendship, I suffer through things without a word, because I know if I let my friends know that everything they make, makes me want to vomit, I would cease to have any friends.
I value them more than their food, so I don't say anything. If it was just a few things, I might, but I'd rather just change the subject and go home with a bad taste in my mouth. I must note, however, I don't say "oh, I love (name of food I don't really love) so much", instead I say things like "That was a wonderful meal" or "thank you so much for having me over" because then it takes the focus away from specific items, and puts it on the experience of being with them.
If it was something little like iced tea, however, I think the best way of escaping a beverage is to just say "you know, I really just like ice water" which is exactly what I say when I go to other peoples houses, mostly because I don't want to be rude when they ask if I'd like something to drink and I really don't like alcohol or soda, but also because everyone has water, and for the most part, it all tastes the same.
7I agree. I always try to make things that people like when they come to my house. If they don't like something I would prefer they tell me so I don't keep trying to give it to them.
8I never pretend to like things I dont.
9No I agree. If you don't like something, just say so and ask for something different. I don't like orange juice and so I always ask for milk or another form of juice if they host has it. Although one time, as a kid, the children of the host did make me cry about not liking orange juice. Bad experience.
10You always have a choice. If you don't like it you don't have to drink or eat it. You just don't make it obvious.
11Be tru to yourself, but be kind to your host.
well, i know i've pretended to like things that i do not like, but i make sure to suffer through the whole thing and not freak out in the middle of it! that was the only rude part. i agree, though, asking for water is the easiest way out of that.
12I see your point that it could be more insulting to fake it than to be truthful.
13couldn't agree with you more. For instance, I LOATHE cheesecake. Of any kind. I finally had to start telling people so that they'd stop making it for dessert when I came over!
14When offered, most people say "Would you like..." I have no problem saying "Oh, no thank you. I'll just have a glass of water for right now." Or whatever. It's an offer not a command. It could be that I just ate before I came, that maybe I'm not feeling well, that I just don't like it, or that I'm full.
15This last one comes up a lot with my in-laws. I just don't eat much in a single sitting whereas they are of the stuff-yourself-until-you-can't-move camp. They're always trying to get me to eat more food. I faithfully use something I learned while I lived in Mexico: "Estoy satisfecho" - "I am satisfied"
I completely agree that it is okay to turn down a dish/drink that you're not particularly fond of. And PLEASE don't pretend you're allergic to it as an alternate excuse! People see through that lie!
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