If the hostess starts cleaning up, I will aways jump in and help her, but I never start cleaning up until after all my guests leave if I am hosting. The best way to kill a party is to start
cleaning up - def one of my personal no nos.
I'm in grad school, so we're all young and quite casual at these sorts of things. Of course I jump in to help clean, and when I am offered help, I take people up on it.
I think it depends on who it is. I mean, of course its nice to offer, but some people find it rude... maybe its because I'm french... I always help clean up when I'm at a family member's
house or my boyfriends parents house... other than that I usually clean my plate and put it in the sink and thats it.
I consistently offer to help clean up. That being said, my mom and her mom were visiting this past weekend and it started driving me batty that they were at my elbows trying to help each time
I stepped a foot into the kitchen! Don't get me wrong, I appreciated their thoughtfulness; but they were guests! I can handle loading a few dishes in the dishwasher... I guess they aren't
used to being pampered!
Always at least OFFER even if they say no! I also never accept! I like to leave them and enjoy the party/guests. (But I know I HATE leaving another person's house when they have a mess to
clean up!)
yes, i'll typically offer assuming that it's someone that i'm friendly with (vs. my husband's friends that i don't like). i think that it's nice to offer even though the host will typically
shoo me away.
I always offer to assist. when my boyfriend and I cook dinner together, one of us cooks and the other cleans -- that was HIS rule he implemented when we started dating and I'd cook to impress
him
I offer about three times and then shut my pie hole. I love to help clean up, though, but I can understand if people don't want others in their kitchen, e.g., putting things away in the wrong
place or constantly asking, "where does this go?"
skigurl sometimes I don't want someone to help me though--I don't want the conversation to be interrupted or I have a special way I want to do things or I need to do something in the
kitchen--I think offering is right. I take help when I need it but I get annoyed when someone acts like they know best.
I have such a reputation for washing dishes that I now get yelled at whenever I approach the sink. Really, rather than getting yelled at for helping, I'd rather more people help ME when I
have dinner parties. But alas, no one does.
I am usually the host and I have some friends that just push me aside and clean up (i love them, lol)
I think it is because I cook so much and have all the parties, my friends are more open and bold about helping as a thank you.
When I am at someone else's I certainly offer to help- it is the polite thing to do.
I always just get up and help if I'm at my parents' house or my inlaws' house, but if I'm at a friend's place, I ask before I jump in because they might have specific places for things or
dishes that have to be washed in a special way.
It depends on who is hosting the dinner party. I think it's rude to offer if it's a formal dinner party. That would be insulting to the hostess for her guests to clean up the dishes/kitchen.
It's okay to offer if it's informal.
i usually just start helping if the hostess starts to clean up. If its really formal or someone i dont know at all I'll offer a few times and then sit my a$$ down if they say no.
Yes! It's common practice amongst our friends/families. It must be done in our home cause it's too small not to and no room to enjoy dessert. We try and make it fun.
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I always offer, but no one ever takes me up on it!
1Same here, SugarCat.
2If the hostess starts cleaning up, I will aways jump in and help her, but I never start cleaning up until after all my guests leave if I am hosting. The best way to kill a party is to start cleaning up - def one of my personal no nos.
3Ditto to SugarCat and tlsgirl.
4I'm in grad school, so we're all young and quite casual at these sorts of things. Of course I jump in to help clean, and when I am offered help, I take people up on it.
5Yes, absolutely.
6I just jump in a help. That's the way my mother raised me... and would beat me if she knew I didn't!
7*in and help.
Argh.
8I think it depends on who it is. I mean, of course its nice to offer, but some people find it rude... maybe its because I'm french... I always help clean up when I'm at a family member's house or my boyfriends parents house... other than that I usually clean my plate and put it in the sink and thats it.
9I consistently offer to help clean up. That being said, my mom and her mom were visiting this past weekend and it started driving me batty that they were at my elbows trying to help each time I stepped a foot into the kitchen! Don't get me wrong, I appreciated their thoughtfulness; but they were guests! I can handle loading a few dishes in the dishwasher... I guess they aren't used to being pampered!
10Always at least OFFER even if they say no! I also never accept! I like to leave them and enjoy the party/guests. (But I know I HATE leaving another person's house when they have a mess to clean up!)
11I always offer and if I see the host/hostess clearing the table I will help out.
12yes, i'll typically offer assuming that it's someone that i'm friendly with (vs. my husband's friends that i don't like). i think that it's nice to offer even though the host will typically shoo me away.
13Yes, I always offer! Sometimes I get turned down.
14I agree with the other commenters - it is just common courtesy to offer to help! If it is a good friend, I just jump right in and start helping out.
15I always offer to assist. when my boyfriend and I cook dinner together, one of us cooks and the other cleans -- that was HIS rule he implemented when we started dating and I'd cook to impress him
16I'm with KWM, I love sitting at the table after dinner and don't mind leaving the plates there to be cleaned later.
17by offering, you're hoping they'll say no
18i normally just get up and help if the host has already risen
I offer about three times and then shut my pie hole. I love to help clean up, though, but I can understand if people don't want others in their kitchen, e.g., putting things away in the wrong place or constantly asking, "where does this go?"
19skigurl sometimes I don't want someone to help me though--I don't want the conversation to be interrupted or I have a special way I want to do things or I need to do something in the kitchen--I think offering is right. I take help when I need it but I get annoyed when someone acts like they know best.
20I have such a reputation for washing dishes that I now get yelled at whenever I approach the sink. Really, rather than getting yelled at for helping, I'd rather more people help ME when I have dinner parties. But alas, no one does.
21With my name....why do you think they invite me?
22i always offer, and jump in many times as well.
23I am usually the host and I have some friends that just push me aside and clean up (i love them, lol)
I think it is because I cook so much and have all the parties, my friends are more open and bold about helping as a thank you.
When I am at someone else's I certainly offer to help- it is the polite thing to do.
24I always just get up and help if I'm at my parents' house or my inlaws' house, but if I'm at a friend's place, I ask before I jump in because they might have specific places for things or dishes that have to be washed in a special way.
25Always!
26If the host or hostess gets up and starts cleaning up, I'll get up and help regardless. That's just good manners.
27It depends on who is hosting the dinner party. I think it's rude to offer if it's a formal dinner party. That would be insulting to the hostess for her guests to clean up the dishes/kitchen. It's okay to offer if it's informal.
28i usually just start helping if the hostess starts to clean up. If its really formal or someone i dont know at all I'll offer a few times and then sit my a$$ down if they say no.
29Yes! It's common practice amongst our friends/families. It must be done in our home cause it's too small not to and no room to enjoy dessert. We try and make it fun.
30i end up helping
31in my culture it's bad luck to let someone wash your dishes... for free. you have to pay them to lift the bad luck
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