When the toast is bad and the bar and the dance floor are in two different rooms. People always hangout by the bar and never dance. Key is have the bar close to the dance floor.

When the toast is bad and the bar and the dance floor are in two different rooms. People always hangout by the bar and never dance. Key is have the bar close to the dance floor. Also when they play too many slow songs.

The tasteless buffet. Chicken, potatoes and mixed veggies. Yuck! If you wouldn't serve it at your house don't serve it to your guests. I agree with "anonymous" on the bar and dance floor being in two separate rooms. I went to a wedding like that and it was terrible. The wedding didn't flow well. More people will dance if the two are in the same rooms.

Not having a seating arrangement!! Even if there are enough chairs for everyone if you don't actually assign seating you will have people who have no place to sit. ITS EXTREMELY IRRITATING! Take the time and do a seating chart. Your laziness will most definitely lead to unhappy guests if you choose not to!!!!

Fondant on the cake. Yeah, it may look pretty, but it's gross and always left sitting on a heap on guest's plates. I always see at least one person attempt to eat it, only to spit into their napkin later. Bakers can do amazing decor with buttercream, try that instead!

The way it has become about "everybody look at me" and less about "hey, come party with us, we're getting married." Bridezilla is not a badge of honour. People forget why they are there and instead want it to be an adult "princess party" and it's really off-putting.

My big pet peeve is when the wedding doesn't reflect the couple's personality. I think people can get caught up in a mythical idea of what a wedding should be and forget what they really want. Then it is just bland and boring from the attire to the food.

I went to a wedding that on the invitation said they were going to have a dessert buffet only. That was fine, I was actually excited for it. But all it was was more like "snacks" (cheese, crackers, vegetables) and a chocolate fountain. That was disappointing.

When the food, ambiance, etc. reflects the bride much more than it does the groom.

i hate when the invite says "reception to follow immediately" and you show up only to wait for an hour or so for the bride and groom to show up after pictures with NOTHING to eat to tide you over. either have a set time for the reception or provide appetizers.

When other guests take advantage of the "free" food and drinks to consume as much as possible and leave plates with only one or two bites taken out, or one or two sips out of a drink. If you had to pay for it yourself, you'd sure as sunshine finish the entire thing.

Damn, Gail is a little picky and judgmental!

Pet peeve is delays--brides should be on time and we shouldn't have to wait forever between courses.

It bugs me when the food is fancy but tastes terrible! Not only is it disappointing (especially considering what the bride & groom paid for each plate!), but food doesn't have to be expensive to taste good. I'd rather have amazing tacos from a taco truck or a fabulous burger from the In-and-Out van parked outside than suffer through another overcooked, chewy filet mignon(or pan seared salmon) with asparagus and garlic mashed potatoes. At least the food has personality and is memorable. Don't even get me started on wedding cakes covered with fondant. So boring and not worth the calories!

When the buffet is tasteless mass-produced food.

Also, I went to a dry wedding a few months ago. NEVER again. No one was dancing, and the groom's mom was totally "you're a sinner if you ever drink" about it.

When they draaaaaaaag dinner out over 3 hours and it doesn't leave you any time to dance and party.

Honestly, none of those things really bother me. There have been a few weddings where the food was bland, or there was a long wait between cocktail hour and dining room opening up, but I try not to be too judge-y at weddings. I remember going to an Indian wedding, and was not aware that it was going to be such a long event. But I can't hold that against the couple.

If there is a pet peeve, drunken toasts and people who obviously should not be anywhere near a microphone. People who "wing" their toasts..yeah, we can tell. Or it's overly scripted and read in a monotone voice. But even then, eh...it's only a matter of moments during the event.

I hate sheet cakes. I think it's tacky when the wedding party and family gets the "real" wedding cake, but everyone else has to eat sheet cake.

Running out of food is a definite no-no!!!

My biggest pet peeve is when the couple forgets to take into consideration their guests. I recently went to a wedding where we waited TWO HOURS at the reception hall for the happy couple, only getting served a veggie tray around a half hour before they showed up. Then once we got the dinner buffet, we all got one trip to it and it got cleared away (well, I guess no over-eating danger there!) Another wedding had no bar, not even a cash bar, as the couple decided that they didn't want anyone drinking alcohol at their reception. Excuse me but I'm of legal age, I can't decide for myself if I'd like to toast the couple with champagne instead of a virgin bellini? It has to show the bride and groom's personality but please - some consideration for those of us who are attending, please!

Sorry, me again, just one more note: The TWO HOUR wait reception also was a "ten minutes for everyone to get a picture of the couple next to the cake before they actually cut it." My camera batteries went dead waiting for them, no joke. Why can't bridal parties take the pictures before the wedding? The whole tradition of the bride not seeing the groom dates back to when the bride was a business deal between families - it's not valid anymore!

And the dry-by-choice reception: It had nothing to do with the bride and groom's religious beliefs, let me clarify that right now. I wouldn't have had a problem with that. It had to do with the fact that the groom was a control freak - he also banned a ton of songs for the DJ to play (no Electric Slide, Chicken Dance, Cha-Cha-Slide, Macarena, Personal Jesus, or anything else that would make a good dance song if he didn't absolutely love it). If someone was drinking, he didn't have control over their actions, period. That's the last time I think I ever talked to that couple and I frankly don't miss them.

i hate it when the open up the toasts to everyone. i was at a wedding last year when these annoying little girls kept running up to the microphone to say something idiotic that had nothing to do with anything. it was beyond annoying!

and dry weddings suck too. so boring!

Jordan almonds... why not just give us marbles to chew on!
Oh, and the drunk relatives...it's not even close to cute.

If I ever get married again and have a reception this time I know I'm having a dry reception cause my family members will show up drunk already!

At any party, Loud DJ's!!! To the point where you can't even have a normal conversation with the person next to you. Very annoying!

I hate when they run out of hors d'oeuvres or booze. 9 times out of 10, the cocktail hour is the most fun part of any wedding, so it should be very well-stocked. As a matter of fact, when I get married, I want to have reception that is just hors d'oeuvres, cocktails and dessert. I think that would be so much fun!

I also hate when the bar closes for an hour during dinner.

And I agree with the above posters about the dinner and dancing being in different rooms. I like having a chair at a table where I can leave my bag (and my heels if I'm dancing).

haha @PensaPink. Jordan almonds always look so delicious and then knock your teeth out...

I've never been to a wedding with a professional bar. More like a pour your own and get gutter drunk off someone else's dime. Or only the wedding party gets champagne for the toast and everyone else gets sparkling grape juice. I guess it depends on the couple. I don't drink so it would be up the the guy I'd marry.

not funny... I cracked a tooth on that mess! I was starving looking at the buffet we couldn't touch until the couple finished the pictures. They were there on the table. I think dentists invented them!

I hate pick-n-dip buffet food. It's always cold anyway.
I want an indoor cookout style reception, where you eat straight from the grill.

No DJ! I'll make a playlist six hours long and use a laptop. I hate loud mouth DJs acting like it's their wedding. Actually, I've always wanted to donate to the local high school by getting their strings groups to play for the early dances and then just play the playlist afterward. You can always change it as the night progresses.

damn...all excited for nothing. I'm not even dating. lol

Don't get me started. Weddings, in general, are my pet peeves. A close second is baby showers. LOL

I've been to so many weddings, that at this point, the circle of people I know are well aware of the pet peeves you guys pointed out, and avoid them. The dancefloor is in the room, the food is usually done by the same great caterer, the booze is available the entire time, and the DJ isn't annoying. But, people still can't get the toasters to make short, well-planned speeches! And I also hate it when the servers at your table are inattentive. That happens a lot, and they throw around a lot of attitude.

gay weddings with an "Asian" theme when both parties are clearly not.

Anonymous, that is hysterical, whether you meant it to be or not.

(are they clearly not Asian or gay? or both?)

If I have a gay wedding, I'm going to have a Mexican theme. And I'm not even Mexican, and I'm not even dating a Mexican, and I'm not gay either.

I approve of the direction this thread is taking.

I would love a dessert buffet. Who are these dessert couples and how can I get invited?

Too many speeches! Do we really need to hear from the father, the mother, the sister, the maid of honor, the grandma, the best man?!? Just have a couple of nice, short speeches and let the party begin!

umm... what?

Gail Simmons needs to lighten up. It's not her day! Her pet peeves are things that don't even bother most people. I think she needs to remove that cork. First, a lot of women dream of "princess" weddings where their day is beautiful, magical, blah blah. And they try to do that with the fancy dress, flowers, etc. Do you think little boys dream of one day wearing a tux? So to say the wedding doesn't reflect the couple's style would encompass probably 90% of weddings because most men would prefer something more comfortable but wear a tux/suit because that's what the bride wants. And how many women have that much make-up on or have their hair up in a bun in everyday life?

And what is she complaining about menus lacking creativity? If we are all so creative at cooking, why the heck would we have cooks/caterers preparing food for us? Oh yeah, let's seek out the best chef to cater our wedding. That is soooo much more realistic.

If anyone is having a dessert buffet, I think that would be the highlight of the wedding for me! All that food and Gail is complaining??? Again, someone needs to loosen up. I'd hate to be her groom.

As for my wedding pet peeve, I hate guests who complain. They think they are entitled to things at the event, but they forget that someone has to shell out money for this. They complain when the food is not good or when there's not enough booze. And their contribution? A $20 wedding gift! If they want good food and unlimited booze, then they should go somewhere themselves and pay for it! They forget the meaning of the wedding and just complain.

20 Dollar Gift!?!?! No. At least $50 then move it up according to how close we are.

kristyy, I agree--this whole "reflecting the tastes" thing is out of hand. Your 'standard,' 'boring' wedding is expensive and stressful enough as it is--now the couple and their parents have to worry about whether it reflects them enough?

I agree Zulkey!! You're invited, the food and drinks are free. Stop crying.

1) I cant stand when the couple has no idea what to serve at what time of day, and they just choose the cheapest easiest thing to serve like veggie trays, and cheese. I just went to a wedding where the brides family did that very thing, PLUS they made thier own tiny sandwiches themselves out of white bread and ham salad/cucumbers/and egg salad, they had made them that morning and by wedding time? stale, dry, ick. Plus they made thier own wedding cake and it was from a box and awful.

2) Picking the wrong venue to host the reception, and there isnt enough room, enough tables and chairs.

3)Not having enough food if you do serve a sit down, or buffet style. I went to a wedding once where it was catered and I was at the end of the line and most everything was gone, BUT i noticed that there was plenty BEHIND the servers and when i asked about it they said "the bride and groom want to have leftovers......" so they get to eat later but i dont now?

Cash bar. Everybody should drink for free - we brought gifts!

I think my biggest wedding pet peeve is ungrateful guests who complain and criticize the wedding, the venue, the couple, the menu etc. If you're going to complain so dang much why did you bother going? Isn't the day supposed to be about celebrating the couple, not celebrating their choice in food, location, alcohol etc.?

Kimpossible and others who's pet peeve is guests complaining - I have to disagree. I'm getting married next year and my #1 consideration in everything I've chosen thus far has been my guests' enjoyment and convenience. Some guests have to travel (which means booking flights and hotel rooms) or even just pay for a sitter or get new clothes to wear, not to mention gifts. The least I can do is make sure they're not left starving for an hour while we take pictures, and make sure the food they do get is tasty and hot.

lady oh I understand. I've been married and planned my wedding as well. I think consideration is a wonderful thing, and I think it goes both ways. I wouldn't want my guests to be left standing w/out drink or food for an hour while I get pictures taken, and I wouldn't plan an hour of photo taking after my ceremony before the reception (well not if I said reception immediately following anyway). I just know that if I'm a guest at a wedding and I had to stand around while I waited for the newly married couple to arrive, I would do it maturely and with grace. I certainly wouldn't complain about the couple's lack of planning etc. I just think alot of people these days need to grow up a bit and learn to take the high road, not worry about such trivial things.

cake smashing. that's it.

Any wedding that I have seen the couple smash cakes in each others face has ended in divorce.

lilren - 2 different cakes, really? that is just wrong!