How Should You Notify Guests Where You're Registered?

April 30, 2010

A friend of mine is getting married this Summer and is registered at several local and national stores. She nixed the idea of a wedding website (too cheesy) and felt it was tacky to advertise where she was registered with her invitation, so she's notifying guests of her registries only if they inquire. Her friends have also provided registry information for those who are attending her bridal shower.

I'm not married, but this situation got me thinking about the best way to spread the word about a wedding registry. How do you think guests should be notified?

18 Comments

bisou002 3 years 4 days

If you don't register, you could very well end up with 5 toasters or a whole bunch of duplicate items (or things that don't match) that you'll have to schlep to the store to return/exchange.

mommie 3 years 1 week

Websites are very convenient especially for communicating with guests. Most people are very busy, they don't want to guess where to go for a gift. Its 2011. Most people ask if there is a website so why not. And, its more economical eco friendly than sending out more paper.

Segat1 3 years 2 weeks

I don't like registries. Where's the surprise?

3 years 2 weeks

I'm getting married soon. People are flying in from all over the country. I feel that it is a convenience for someone else not to have to ask around, prodding people to get information. I think that is rude to your guests. Half of the wedding traditions have gone the way of the Dodo anyway, so who even cares anymore. Sure, there will be some who still get put-off by the fact that you include it with your invitation (not in a blazing text under "the blessed union of John Doe and Jane Smith") but it really doesn't matter.

ewashi3 3 years 2 weeks

Overall, the respondents think putting it in the invitation is gauche. Emily Post says that sending the registry in the invitation is a no no, since it makes people feel like in order to come, they must buy something. Well...it's a wedding, so people are already going to buy something. I think that the wedding site/ word of mouth are equally fine because they both involve the guest making the effort to look for the answer themselves.

runningesq 3 years 3 weeks

Never on the wedding invitation ! Word of mouth, shower invite is fine, wedding website works.

primerstar6 3 years 3 weeks

i don't mind a slip of paper included with the shower invite. however, when one of my cousins included about 5 of these slips, and two of them were for jewelry stores, i realized some people don't know where to draw the line.

Acid Pops 3 years 3 weeks

When my best friend asked me to be her MOH, I went out and bought 5 different books on bridesmaids'/MOH's duties. Some said it was tacky to include the registry card in the invitation and some said it was acceptable nowadays to include it. So I guess the concept of "proper etiquette" as regards this particular question is no longer set in stone and can be decided by those throwing the shower. Personally, I don't think adding a registry card to the invitation makes the bride look like she is fishing for presents as she is normally NOT the one sending out the invitations nor is she the one planning/hosting the event. She is the guest of honor and likely has little to nothing to do with the planning of the shower. In the case of my own MOH duties, I ended up adding the registry cards to the invitations as the entire "RSVP/by the way, the bride is registered at..." process would have been too complicated (I don't live in the country and was planning everything from abroad).

doogirl 3 years 3 weeks

It is tacky, tacky, tacky to advertise where you are registered! It makes it look like you are having a party to only get presents. Wedding showers are ridiculous also, you get presents when you get married, there is no reason to get presents twice! When I got married, my guests called me to find out where I was registered, that is proper etiquette!

pharm_chick 3 years 3 weeks

i agree with lilkimbo, as long as its not with the wedding invite itself. i never had a bridal registry, but personally if i did, i would tell people through word of mouth or with shower invites.

Spectra 3 years 3 weeks

We included a small card with the invitations, in with the RSVP card and directions to the reception.

3 years 3 weeks

I am actually a wedding planner and proper etiquette states that you share the news of your registry by word-of-mouth. It should actually be your family and bridal party and friends to spread the word on your behalf. That being said, I do think that in this day and age the website is the perfect way to let everyone know without being rude about it. It definitely is tacky to put in on your actual wedding invitation. However, your invitations for your bridal shower can state where you are registered. http://www.weddingistas.com

lilkimbo 3 years 3 weeks

I think any of the last three options are OK, depending on the couple.

fuzzles 3 years 3 weeks

Outdoor location with guests. Plane with a banner. ;)

Soniabonya 3 years 3 weeks

We included the registry on a slip of paper with directions to our event site, the no child 10 and under rule, and hotel information. It was included with the invitation, but not on the invitation itself.

psterling 3 years 3 weeks

advertising your registry is just tacky and frankly unnecessary since registries are so common nowadays that 90% of people will ask you or someone in your family/bridal party where you're registered. And that other 10% probably weren't planning to buy off your registry anyway!

3 years 3 weeks

A shower is meant to "shower" the bride (or the mother-to-be) with gifts and that is the proper place to indicate registry information. Word of mouth is always the best way, however.

3 years 3 weeks

I think it's extremely tacky to put it on the invitation itself, but I don't mind it on a shower invite. As a matter of fact, I've been to two showers recently (one bridal, one baby) and that's where I found out about their registries.

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