I can't stand when I say BYOB and people show up without anything to drink for themselves and assume I have alcohol for them.

not RSVPing ! how difficult is it to respond to an evite, email, or fomral invitation with POST MARKED response card ?! my mom should not have to call you 5 days before the wedding to see if you are coming !

... also, on the wedding front: RSVPing with more than the amount of people invited. unless your family of 5 can sit on two chairs and eat two meals, you'll have to leave 3 at home.

Party peeve in general, when people talk about parties they're throwing/parties they're going to in front of other peeps who aren't invited. Sooooo tacky.

i had a crazy roomate crash a party i was having, drink all my wine, throw up, and then seduce one of the guests who was absolutely disgusted with her - not cool

also, i hate when people are late or when they bring people i don't like/haven't invited - and i really hate when people try to change the details, like tell you they dont like the bar you chose or that they think it should start at a different time

People who don't RSVP, even after you ask them if they are coming and then ask them again. I don't want to stalk people, but.... I tried to throw a party over the summer and had to cancel it because the only people who got back to me told me they couldn't go and then a handful of other people just never responded or read the invite at all! I like how at evite you can track who has read the invite and who hasn't.

runningesq - I ran into a bunch of RSVP trubs with my wedding, too! One woman wrote down her husband's name on the response card but not hers. And then a few weeks before the wedding, she's talking to my mom about how she can't wait to go and my mom was like, "We didn't know you were coming..." and she insisted that she had written both her husband's name and her name on the card. And THEN she complained about having to get a sitter for her kids.

Of course it's bad if people don't respond at all, but the worst thing to me is when someone says they'll come and then change their mind. At least give me an "undecided" if you're not sure, you know?
That always breaks my heart

Party, I've never had an experience with friends not reading the invite properly--that's really bad. I hate the normal stuff. People who don't RSVP yet show up, and of course those who mooch off of others and don't bring anything

it bugs me if someone can't make a party, and then asks if I can do a different date etc. ummmm... no... its my party, not a party I'm throwing to see you and you alone.

that was me you are referring to who went to the wrong place and to save face, i'd like to tell everyone that there is a canteen and a cantina within the same block and a half radius!

No RSVPing. Is a big one for me or worse yet.Tell me you are coming and then don't show with no notice.

And also my hubby has friends that come empty-handed (this does not bother me) and then get upset if I don't make their favorite item (this sends me over the edge)I have a few food items that are my "signature" dishes, but I get sick of making them and sometimes will have a party with only new recipes. This usually causes a stir. If they want certain things they should go to a restaurant or get their signif others to cook it for them!

suuuuuure Alexis....jk!! That's actually happened to me before, when I went to a place called Green Street Tavern instead of the intended place, Green Street Restaurant (which, incidentally, isn't even on Green Street).

Anywho, my biggest pet peeves are people who either don't RSVP but decide to show up anyway (empty-handed, no less) or those who do RSVP and then decide to flake out the day of.

Ha mrsld, I was typing my comment and only saw yours after I posted! Looks like we both have the same problems haha

RSVPing and not showing up is my pet peeve!

When I throw a bacon dog feast my cart man needs to know how many dogs to wrap........so no RSVP no dog for you!

When people say they will come and never show up. But my biggest pet peeve is when someone says they will come, and then ten minutes before the party begins they text: hey, i'm not going to make it (whatever excuse) and then "but have a great time! let's hang out soon. For some reason that "have fun! let's hang out soon" just annoys me to no end.

I hate people that bring other people who arent invited. There is nothing worse than having a family/friend get together and having one stranger chilling on the couch

I hate it when people show up really late to a dinner party, after everyone else is done eating. It also really rude when someone suggests a "better" way to do/make something.

Truthfully, I haven't experienced any party pet peeves. All my parties have been small and intimate -- good friends, and close family members. Everybody RSVP'd, and showed up on time.

But you know, if anybody was rude, I wouldn't have them over again. It would be that simple for me.

My friends and I like to have theme parties, nothing big, but dessert parties, cocktail and apps parties... where it's obvious what you're supposed to bring. The same offenders will text one of us way after it started, ask if it's ok to show up still, and ... "can i bring anything?" uh, perhaps an app and a cocktail!?! grrr. non-RSVPers are the worst too, drives me crazy!

My recurring party problem is that everyone always seems to have other plans on the day of my party. I've had to cancel parties a couple of times because only one or two people could make it.

My biggest pet peeve is when we throw a party and ask everyone to bring something to pass and someone inevitably shows up with like, a pack of hamburger buns and still loads their plate up with brats, potato salad, burgers, etc. It's so cheap-looking and stingy. I also hate it when we have a BYOB party and someone brings, say, Old Style and drinks the Beck's that someone else brought. That's just unfair!

I used to have this friend ("used to" being the operative term), and whenever I would invite her to an event her response was always "I'll have to see if something else comes up".. that always seemed very rude to me. I mean if you haven't gotten any other invitations before mine, you're going to hold out and see if you get a better offer? Rude and hurtful imo.

I don't throw parties anymore, all of our family is on the east coast (where we moved from), besides we're not really the party type.

People who don't show up at the appropriate time. My in-laws consistently show up 15 minutes EARLY to parties (so the host is still getting ready), but my husband's coworkers (firefighters) consistently show up REALLY late. So if we have an open house starting at 5pm, they'll show up at 10pm (as if they were going out to a club).

Oh, and a pet peeve I have for people throwing a party: people who expect the guests to bring all the food and drinks. I'm fine with it if the theme is specifically a pot luck, but to throw a BBQ and say "Bring whatever you want to grill for yourself, and BYOB"? I don't think that's throwing a party.

I agree, panda!

I cannot stand BYOB parties. It's one thing if it's a small group of friends and you have an appetizer party once a month or something and the location just switches around, but I think it's so rude to throw a party for your birthday, New Year's, etc. and expect people to provide the drinks for you! Don't throw a party if you can't provide food/drinks.

As a lot of you have said, I also can't stand it when someone RSVPs and then doesn't show up...or shows up 2-3 hrs late! RUDE.

Agree with the lack of RSVP. It's just rude.

I agree with panda. I have a friend who has a 'dinner' for himself every year which means that he invites a ton of people to a restaurant and of course he doesn't pay. first, I hate HUGE parties at restaurants since you never get to talk to who you want and splitting the bill is a nightmare. but moreover past a certain age if you want a party, throw one. at the very least if you're unwilling to host your own party, have a meetup at a bar so people can come and spend what they want and talk to who they want.

Must vote for the lack-of-RSVP. I need to have a general idea how much food to prepare. I always fix a bit extra just in case, but I also don't want to go broke cooking way more than is needed, either. Also, people who invite their whole family and then some when a special occasion invite is just for the people listed, as in "Tiny and Toni" not "Tiny and Toni and their 3 teenagers and the boyfriends-of-the-week of those teenagers".

I recently planned to have a spa party and I sent out invitations that request rsvp. I barely got a response so I started asking for a response and even calling I did this a couple of times. What I never understood how they thought I was bugging when they didn't rsvp. If they would have done that I would not have had to ask!!!!!!!!! I enjoy having parties but I don't think I can keep this up you would think that it would be considerate to the fact that I have to prepare food and get with the lady that is bring product for the party. How dare they I love my friends and co-workers but I think I am going to chose another group to come to my parties