Valentine's Day is for lovers, but men and women don't always agree about the details! We partnered with Ask Men and polled thousands of men and women to find out exactly how we disagree. The results are in! Some of the answers might surprise you, like who hates V-Day engagements more, how many people have had a one-night stand on Feb. 14, and what each gender thinks about partying with their single friends. Other results won't catch you off guard — Surprise! Sex is the preferred gift among men. We also found out which celebrity charmer women wish they could go out with, and which famous woman tops men's dream-Valentine list. Take a peek now into the collective mind of each gender just in time for Valentine's Day! And check out our insightful Valentine's Day infograph, too!
TrèsSugar: In the book you discuss how Michelle Obama's stylish example has impacted young women, especially those who are African American. How does Michelle show style and fashion can empower women, considering we hear about how the fashion industry can have a negative impact on a young woman's self-image?
Kate Betts: For young African American women, she's obviously an amazing role model. She's probably the first style icon that they've known in their lifetime that's not in the entertainment or sports business. That's a powerful thing. She got where nobody thought she could with her intellectual power, and she used her style to carry her on this amazing trajectory. And what I think she's trying to show, without talking about it, is how feeling good about yourself, dressing well, taking care of yourself can empower you. And I think she's speaking directly to young African Americans who strive to emulate her. But I think it's a message for all women.
In Michelle's case, she traveled through unfamiliar territories like Princeton or corporate law firms, and I think her style was totemic for her. It was part of herself that she was holding onto. In those foreign environments it's easy to feel pressure to fit in and to become something else, and I think the White House is the biggest example of that. The pressure to dress for the job and "become" the first lady is intense. But she often says, I'm a better first lady when I'm Michelle Obama than when I'm "The First Lady of the United States."
TS: How come Michelle Obama's "be yourself" message comes off as more authentic than when it's written in women's magazines?
KB: We see Michelle as this authentic person. It feels like her public persona is her private self also. So we really believe her and have faith in her. It's easier than with a magazine that may seem inauthentic because they use models or because there's somehow commerce behind it.
TS: How much of Michelle Obama's regular mom, J.Crew-wearing style is calculated for political reasons? Get the answer, as well as a peek into Michelle's stylish college days, after the jump!
"Michelle Obama is helping liberate a generation of women from the false idea that style and substance are mutually exclusive," explains fashion journalist Kate Betts. In her new book Everyday Icon: Michelle Obama and the Power of Style (out today), the former Harper's Bazaar editor-in-chief notes that other first ladies, much like their everyday counterparts, had to choose either the role of traditional homemaker and caretaker (think Jackie Kennedy) or serious career women (Hillary Clinton). Whether or not they cultivated their personal style often reflected their decisions. Michelle Obama has become the first to seem authentically herself in both camps. Michelle's synthesis of style and smarts, explains Kate, indicates that assumptions about women's roles have changed.
Kate told me in an interview that Michelle reminds us our style can go beyond the latest fashion trends, and "become inextricably bound up in who we are and what we believe in." To give us a taste of her book, Kate selected a few iconic Michelle O outfits and identified what message each sends. Check them out now.
The crunchy chips, the melted cheese, the gooey toppings — I love everything about nachos. I'm so crazy about nachos that back in 2008, I created an original series that chronicled my love affair with them. Since I came up with this idea while eating nachos on Super Bowl Sunday, I thought I'd round up my favorite nacho recipes just in time for this year's big game. Be warned: these are not your regular nachos!
In addition to Hickory BaconSalt's presence at Denny's, we also learned that Baconnaise is coming to the shelves of Wal-Mart.
Hickory bacon sprinkles atop a Grand Slam, and bacon mayonnaise for the middle-American masses; it'd be hard to dream up a better fit, don't you think?
Laura Brunow Miner created PictoryMag.com one year ago as a place for people to upload captioned photographs to one of her editorial themes. For the site's one-year anniversary, she teamed up with Levis for a special project: Secrets of Inspiring Women. I spoke with Laura, who shared her motivation: "I wanted to do a showcase on women and the unique challenges they face and their success stories."
The photo essays feature strong, spirited women figuring out how to succeed in their own skin. Anyone can submit one captioned photo to the theme "notes on being a women." Laura explained: "Some people were men showing respect for women in their lives, men talking about their amazing grandmothers or friends, and even some women talked about the role models in their lives. It was great to see the diversity." Laura considers the subjects ordinary women who have decided to make their lives exceptional. We're happy to present five of our favorite inspiring photos and stories below. And if you like what you see, check out the whole project here.
- Know your body: "As a gynecologist for over 20 years I've found that most women really don't understand their body parts and how those body parts. Learn your body by exploring it and finding out how it responds."
- Realize you deserve sex: "In my practice I've found that there are many women who feel they don't deserve sex. They view sex as something that is for men, and something that they give to their partners. So they want to be good in bed, meaning that they want to wow their sexual partner. They want to blow his mind. You look at most women magazines and they talk about how to drive him crazy in bed. So we're taught to drive men crazy rather than to drive ourselves crazy. We need to make it wonderful for ourselves and know we deserve it too and that women need it as well for physical and emotional health."
- Learn about sex: "Who's going to teach you about sex? Sex is so much more than intercourse. So educate yourself about all the various ways of having sex. Learning the techniques, by reading books or watching videos, is important."
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How can you add more years to your life? Have more sex! That's what Dr. Oz told me when I caught up with him at this week's Women's Conference. The TV doc explained the health benefits of getting busy and the differences between the needs of men and women, while his wife Lisa shared some of their secrets to a happy sex life. Check it out now!