Um, even it was my best friend, I'd still call them out for throwing food at people. That's rude no matter what the food is or where it came from.

So I guess I would stifle a comment along the lines of, "The junior high cafeteria is down the street, perhaps you'd be more comfortable there?" and just reprimand them loudly and move on.

Did the offenders stop throwing after you spoke to them? I certainly hope they did.

You reacted a lot more calmly than I would have

wow, no you definitely did not overreact! that is so... immature and stupid!

I wouldn't have said a thing. I would have walked up to them, taken the food trays/bowls and walked away. Enough of a hint that they are being total jerks!

But I have to ask - why did you bring your own food to a bar? Do they not serve snack there? I can understand bringing in a b'day cake, but I'm a bit puzzled about the food. Do tell!

I would have done the same thing, only after gone to the friend whos cousins they were and told him or her that what happened wasnt cool.

Partysugar, so sorry to hear this happened to you - in NO way did you overreact, it was very obvious from all of your postings that you put a lot of care and time into this event and to have your efforts be treated so callously must have really bummed you out. You had every right to react how you did. Their behavior was childish and inappropriate, this wasn't some blowout beer-bash at a frat (sorry for the generalization) house!

I probably would have addressed with issue with the cousin of the foodthrowers, assuming I knew that person fairly well. I think your response was totally just. WTG for not letting the problem just go on!

Why those dirty rotten scoundrels....I'd av hit with the big left hook and left them with a shiner!

In my opinion, you under-reacted. Good for you! Those guys have no idea how close they came to a nuclear scolding. In these situations I always think of the B-52's song Party Gone Out of Bounds: Who's to blame when situations get out of hand? Who's to blame when parties are poorly planned? Be tactful when making the rounds. (Precious' getting bombed!)

You definitely did NOT overreact. In fact, you were calmer than I think I would have been, 'cause I would've been way pissed off. Throwing food is just immature.