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Would it be ok to date my ex-boyfriend?

Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:19:12 -0800

An ex-boyfriend of mine (we dated for a few years in my late teens) is getting divorced. The divorce will be finalized around June, but he has agreed to help her out financially with her schooling through the end of the year. He moved out of state when he got married, but I have kept in contact with him throughout the marriage by phone and Instant Message. He’s been miserable from almost the beginning of the 5 year marriage and has stated that he still having feelings for me. Since he is moving back home after the divorce, would it be acceptable to start up a relationship with him? If so, when?

Would it be ok to date my ex-boyfriend?

Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:19:11 -0800

Anne Hathaway’s cooperation with FBI led to ex-boyfriends arrest?

justingirl1989 — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 06:01:07 -0700

There is speculation that Anne Hathaway’s cooperated with the FBI prior to her troubled boyfriend’s arrest. Raffaello Follieri was arrested for an alleged $6 million con job, where he allegedly fleeced real estate investors by posing as an agent of the Vatican so he could live in a posh Fifth Ave. pad and jet around the globe. The 29-year-old Italian businessman, is charged wire-fraud and money-laundering charges that could put him in jail for 20 years. The 18-page indictment charges Follieri boasted of meeting Pope Benedict and of being tapped as the Vatican’s No. 1 man on U.S. real estate deals. It also says he used his unidentified investor’s money to hire a pair of monsignors who helped pump up his credentials as a church wheeler-dealer. Follieri, a fixture at Hathaway’s side for more then three-years, remains locked up on $21 million bail.

According to the NY Daily News a friend of the jailed Follieri suspects the starlet spoke with the FBI shortly before they arrested him. “It makes sense,” the friend said. “She’s referred to as his former girlfriend in the indictment even though her spokesman never confirmed they broke up.”

Hathaway, who is not identified by name in the criminal complaint, split with Follieri shortly before his arrest last week.
“I think that in return for her cooperation, the feds held off on arresting Follieri until she was out of the country,” the friend said. Hathaway’s camp has declined to comment on Follieri’s legal troubles.

http://www.hotmommagossip.com/2008/06/29/anne-hathaways-cooperation-with...

EX boyfriend HELP!!

Fri, 19 Jun 2009 22:57:38 -0700

Almost a year ago my boyfriend broke up with me. We dated for two years and broke up because i was insecure and i picked fights with him. he told me that he never stopped loving me until a few months after we ended things. however we never stopped acting like a couple. when we were together we still acted like we were dating and our friends saw it but he refused to see it. Until last month we were still physical involved and i told him it wasn't healthy to be more than friends and not be in a relationship. He knows i want to get back together, i have from the day we broke up but now i think he can only see me as his good friend. We talk a lot and get together a lot just like normal friends and he use to say that he could see us getting back together and now im afraid he only thinks of me as his friend and nothing more. what should i do to help him change his mind? how can i change our friendship from just friends into a relationship again without getting hurt? Do i spend some time apart from him so he can see what he is missing? because i fear its only a matter of time until he finds another girlfriend.

Missing ex boyfriend like crazy, even though I shouldn't

Wed, 06 May 2009 23:18:29 -0700

My first boyfriend and I were together for 3 and a half years, but broke up almost four years ago. We had our good times but overall it didn't work because he had major honesty issues and I often caught him in lies. I took my time to heal and moved on, cut him out of my life 100% and have been fine up until about 6 months ago. All of a sudden though, I started thinking about him nonstop. I seriously cannot get him out of my head and find myself missing him and wondering why things had to turn out the way they did, because he was the person I was closest to and I've never been close to anyone like that since (not even my best friend). I kept going over this in my mind for the past few months, and then this past weekend I found out from a friend that he moved to a different country. I don't know why but I've fallen into this deep spiral of sadness. I feel so alone and lost. Has anyone ever been through a similar situation? Any advice would be very greatly appreciated.

My ex-boyfriend is my Best Friend and I don't want to let go.

Sat, 20 Dec 2008 21:17:02 -0800

We started hot and heavy on a cloud of hazy blissful love over a year ago. We moved way too fast and within weeks he was spending every night with me and we were talking about a future together. The red flag I kept ignoring was the fact that he was only 6 months out of a 20 year relationship/marriage and I was obviously the rebound chick. We were so enmeshed and burning bright there was no way that could last forever.

We broke up after 6 months because he began to have doubts that I was 'the one"... after 20 years with the same woman, he wanted to see other people and find his "one". As a rational and understanding woman I was as graceful as I could be and let him go, encouraging him to find his joy no matter how hurtful it was to me. My thinking is, if I let him go now, we will come back to me complete, no matter how long it takes.

After a few months of being casual friends we became increasingly close again. But he is still bent on pursuing "the one" and has been dating, a lot. We are best friends. we spend 4 to 5 evenings a week together, we just took an extremely romantic trip to Vegas together. He calls me throughout the day to say hi and talk about our day. He tells me all about his dates and the shinanigans. We spend time with each other's friends and families. We take care of each other when we are sick... etc. And yes, the incredible sex continued until 2 weeks ago when he met a woman he is interested in. After he met her I asked him point blank if he still feels the connection and doesn't want to pursue it, or if he just doesn't feel it. His answer was that he feels very strongly and knows there is a deep connection with me, but he doesn't want to pursue/ nurture it now and then be unhappy in 5-10 years wondering if he should have looked around more.

Now they are dating and becoming intimate. She lives about an hour away, so he and I still spend time together, without physical contact and he tells me everything. It hurts, but I want to be his support.

I wish I could say I was being selfless, but the truth is, he is my "ONE" I know it with every breathe I take. I'm 34 year old professional social worker and my logical mind says, show him the door, while my heart says, stay and fight for what you know you want. I am willing to date other people and see what goes, but in my heart and mind I know we will end up together if I remain his best friend and support him while I go about my life.

This should be cut and dry, but it is not. Any words of advice besides 'let it go'? Any ideas, anyone been here?

Ex-Boyfriend Lied and Comes Clean Now

Sat, 19 Apr 2008 17:37:57 -0700

I was with my boyfriend for 11 months. We had sex after six months. I wasnt ready yet we did it. Before we did he told me he was a virgin (I was one too) we had countless discussions on how I believed premarital sex was wrong and his view was that if it was with the right person for the right reason it wasn't wrong. Eventually, though out of habit it became okay to have sex again n again. It took a while to get comfortable with it but when I did my views washed away. After some time we broke up because I could sense he wasn't right for me. He would tell white lies. He would tell his cousins about us i.e.intimate details. Long story short I broke up with him just before our one year. After a few months had passed we decided to try being friends. It was going pretty good but he just told me he wasn't a virgin when we had sex when we were together. Its been two months since our break up and it hurts to hear that. I feel like he betrayed me. I dont know if i can continue being his friend. He said he told me because he wanted to be honest with me now. He didnt want to lie to me anymore. I just dont know how to come to terms with this. Hes begging for forgiveness saying that i would be a bigger person if i did that. I just feel so disrespected. Not only did I give in but he lied. I dont know what to do.

My ex-boyfriend asked me to help him find a girl-now what?

Wed, 10 Oct 2007 07:41:28 -0700

My ex and I had a relationship that lasted for merely almost two months. During that entire time, we acted very immaturely about our relationship. We talked for hours on the phone and online, and we had fun together during the times we saw each other in person, but I always felt pressure to do what he wants to do. I never felt that he really respected me or even listened to me. He would try to make me do things that I didn't feel comfortable doing. For example he wanted me to take a nude picture of myself, but I never did for I told him that if he loved me he would respect me, which threw him off. Whenever I talked about my deepest feelings and insecurities just to deepen our relationship and to make him open up as well, he would just blow them off and say that I was "complaining" or being "too dramatic".
Ever since my ex broke up with me last year for various reasons such as that we have a "friendly type of love" and that he was getting "kinda bored", we've been talking on and off. I contacted him for a couple months, but I stopped for I realized that he was never going to change. It usually starts with him contacting me via a text, an IM, or a comment on Facebook. Then we talk for a while till he stops talking to me altogether. A couple months later, he would talk to me again, and I would respond back. It was weak of me to respond back, but I couldn't help it.
This time, he asked me to find a girl for him since he goes to a technological university and there are hardly any girls around in his school. He also said that he wants to be friends with me again. I was extremely surprised that he would stoop that low to ask his own ex-girlfriend to find a girl for him. I know that he's just using me so he could get a girl and just totally ignore me again. But his "request" has really got to me. I'm so tired of being treated like this. I'm now in an amazing relationship with a guy who treats me with the most utmost respect, care, and love. I want to talk to my ex about this, but I know he wouldn't since I know that he doesn't like to talk about his own private feelings. How should I handle this?

He doesn't love me anymore

Thu, 25 Feb 2010 10:55:44 -0800

I love my ex very much. We were together for 3 and a half years. He broke it off this morning via e-mail! See, he is obsessed with my past. I'm 21. I met him when I was 17. A mutual firend introduced us. Back when I was 15, this mutual friend and I were friends with benefits. I gave that friend one lousy BJ (he didn't finish, it lasted like 10 seconds because we were scared we'd get caught). We made out a few other times. Other than that, before I started dating my now ex, I had one time flings at bars with a couple of guys I had only met.

In the beginning of the relationship everything was awesome because we were both insanely attracted to one another, we shared a lot of common interests, I'd say we're both on the same level intelectually, we have the same sense of humor, etc. I lost my virginity to him and sex has always been great, and he always compliments me on that regard. It sounds like the perfetc relationship right? Except for this HUGE detail: he's obsessed with my past! Especially with the ex friend with benefits because well, they know each other, they were friends for some time too! He hates that I was so "easy" and gave him sexual benefits while being only friends whereas we had sex only after we'd been dating, and also resents me for having withheld that info for six months, and that hadn't HE asked, I would've never told him. I told him I would've told him, but when we'd been more established as a couple.

Nevertheless, he still loved me and wanted to make things work and talked about marriage and having kids and such. Yesterday he tells me he still likes me a lot romantically and still cares about me deeply, but he's not in love with me. He says he's distanced himself from me, emotionally, because of all the fighting and arguing. He doesn't feel as strongly as before. He said he really wanted to make it work and be the same couple we were before. So we saw each other yesterday, everything was fine. Until my mom mentioned she'd seen a former classmate of mine, he heard about this and quickly remembered that this classmate was friends with my ex-FWB, and he got all upset and obsessive about it again. He left my house, angry.

Today I check my mail. He said he'd noticed that my ex-FWB was friends with my sister on facebook (come on, it's facebook, it's NOT REAL!) and that meant we can't make it work because this guy is "everywhere" in my life and I'll never completely remove him off my life. Which I find stupid since I haven't talked to this guy in over 3 years and everything's been fine. He can get so dramatic about that guy! For instance, I play guitar and sing and I'm (or was, I don't know) in a band with my (ex) boyfriend. He still talks to my ex FWB. The other day, my ex FWB tells him he wants to have a girl in his band. My boyfriend flipped and told me that I should be in this other guy's band, that maybe it was because I was meant to be with him, that now I could go and have his love. He once told me he felt inferior to this other guy. I don't see why. I never loved that guy. I liked him a lot, sure. But I'm crazy in love with my (ex) boyfriend.

Anyway, thing is nothing will convince him the past is dead to me, and now to boot he doesn't even love me anymore! What can I do?

Friends Forever | What about your ex's ex or current girlfriend?

rlveronica — Fri, 05 Oct 2007 15:02:16 -0700

Like the comic? Haha.

I've been blogging for a while now and I tend to jump from site to site, but I remember blogging about this topic and thought I'd share it with all of you.

Looking back at all of my relationships-I think about how grateful I am to have all of my ex-boyfriends (er, most of them) in my life... as friends. But I am most grateful to have certain girlfriends in my life. Who? Why their ex-girlfriends or current girlfriends!

I KNOW some of you ladies are thinking, "WHAAAAAT?!" Haha. The thing is-most of my close, if not best friends, happened to stroll into my life because of my ex-boyfriends. Think of it this way: he chose me, why wouldn't I get along with his exes or current girlfriend?

Hey, maybe it's because I live in a town where you always bump into someone when you walk into Wal-Mart or the local mall... so, it's kind of hard to avoid situations like that. Who knows?

But I just wanted to know if any of you ladies are tight with any of your exes' exes or current girlfriend. I am and I'm glad. :]