What do I do about recent breakup?

Nov 10, 2009 - So about a month and a half ago, my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I broke up.  He is afraid of the next step to our commitment, which I think he thinks is either engagement or marriage.  I have not pressured him explicitly, but being a girl, I'm sure I have subconsciously.  His reasoning was that he says he needs time to be single and selfish and that he has issues to figure out, but still really cares about me.  He says it has nothing to do with me and that if he wanted to be in a relationship right now he would be in one with me.  We have been in contact since we broke up and when we do talk or see each other, it is like nothing happened and is totally normal between us.  I feel like he is my best friend so it is so hard not to stay in contact with him because even when I don't instigate the conversation, he does.  I know a lot of people will probably say don't talk to him, but I don't know if that is the solution.  He tells me that the upcoming holidays, Valentine's Day, and his birthday will be really hard for him (he is 30 and I am 27 and this all seemed to stem from his fear of turning 30), but that he feels like he needs these next 6 months to clear his head.  He said that time will tell what will happen with us, and I do believe that, I just hate waiting :) Also, his twin brother, who has been dating his girlfriend for almost 4 years has what seems to be the same issues with commitment.  It is weird because they come from a great family with great commitment role models.  Their mom and dad have been married for 40 years and their older brother has been married for 10 years.  I just don't know what to do with regards to this.  I am trying not to hold myself back and to go and meet other people to see what is out there, but I really had thought that we were going to spend our lives together.  Does anyone recommend couple's counseling?  Has anyone been in a similar situation?  I just need some guidance.  Thanks! - 9 Comments

Realistically, is he good for me? I've never been so torn.

Oct 15, 2009 - Hi, I just joined after browsing for a bit... it looks like there are wonderful and very intelligent people here. :) First of all, I'm only 20 and I guess this is the first real love I've ever had... - 21 Comments

Big wedding: 20,000 gather for mass nuptials

Oct 14, 2009 - ASAN, South Korea - Brides in white gowns and Japanese kimonos joined grooms in black suits and red ties Wednesday for the Unification Church's biggest mass wedding in a decade — a spectacle church officials say involves 40,000 people around the world. The "blessing ceremony" is the church's largest since 1999, and may well be the last on such a grand scale officiated by the 89-year-old Rev. Sun Myung Moon, the controversial founder of the Unification Church. - 3 Comments

President Obama’s Nobel Reaction

Oct 09, 2009 - Following is a transcript of President Obama’s remarks in response to receiving the Nobel Peace Prize, as transcribed by CQ Transcriptions. PRESIDENT OBAMA: Good morning. Well, this is not how I expected to wake up this morning. - 14 Comments

really torn.... any insights truly appreciated : )

Sep 26, 2009 - OK so I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this question, but for some reason I can't tell myself the truth and take action. So bottomline, I fell for an older, very charming man 5 years ago.  I was 22 at the time, he was 35... - 11 Comments

Im so lost....Can someone help?

Sep 10, 2009 - My boyfried and i have been together for about a year and a half...He's from another state but came to go to school in my hometown. after we started dating he moved in with me for about a year and we both went to school together..about 3 months ago he went home for the summer...when he got there at first it was fine but then i started noticing a difference in him...he doesnt like to stay home on the weekends...he like to go out with his friends. starting on his birthday he lied to me...then after i caught him in that lie he did it 3 more times...whats sad is i had to hack into his email to find the truth...he wasnt even going to tell me...all the times he lied was over hanging out with friends and girls were there...i had specifically told him i was not comfortable with it early on in our relationship. - 15 Comments